I’m currently in the midst of an NLP course that I’ll graduate from and get my certification in September. For those of you who are like what the hell is NLP? it stands for Neuro Linguistic Programming. Which is a fancy way of talking about your subconscious mind and how to reprogram it. What made me dive into this course, aside from the fact that I find the subconscious mind interesting all by itself, was the ability to learn how to reprogram outdated beliefs that no longer serve me. Then once I’m able to successfully do that myself, I can then start to do that for clients who are looking for the same thing, use it with shadow work, the list is endless.

One of the categories I’m excited to get into is Limiting Beliefs. I’ve started learning about it in pre-study work and I’m antsy to dive into it further. How many of us have limiting beliefs that hold us back from living the life we want to live? I know I have quite a few. It usually comes from an experience we had that makes us shut down and think we’re no longer worthy of what we want to accomplish. Whether we try and fail so we give up instead of trying another avenue, or someone tells us we can’t do something and we believe them, at some point there was a moment or action that triggered us into thinking we were no longer worthy or able.

For instance, when I was younger, I would read all the time. My favorite genre used to be horror and I would read a lot of RL Stine’s Fear Street series. Then as I got older, I graduated to Stephen King and Anne Rice. I’ve probably read most of all the aforementioned authors catalogs and I decided I wanted to be an author too. I would write novels, whether they be series or stand-alone stories and they would be epic and I would be on a best seller list! I took a creative writing class, I wrote short stories and poems and thought about how I would eventually have a publisher and would do book tours.

Then life happened. I grew up way faster than I had anticipated, and went into the “real world” where focus is work, bills and getting through life. The journals and books got put away on shelves, collecting dust while I would work on building a career in corporate land. Sometimes I would get into a series (hello, JR Ward! You are amazing and one day I will make it to one of your book signings!) and I would stay up all night binge reading the latest novel. Of course, then I would be sad when I finished in 1 or 2 days and would have nothing new to read for another year when the next release would come out. But I barely had time to read the novels, let alone write one of my own, so the dream of writing went further and further down the rabbit hole until I couldn’t see it anymore.

There were so many reasons why I couldn’t do it: I don’t have time to write. What am I going to write about? Who’s going to want to read it? How would I find the time to get a publisher? Who has time for classes? Not me!

Lately, I’ve been asking myself: When did I decide that?

Such a powerful question that you ask when pinpointing and breaking out of a limiting belief. It’s been sitting with me for a while now and I’ve been applying it to so many things. For this blog’s purpose though, when did I decide that I didn’t have the time to write? That I wouldn’t have ideas? There would be no audience?

Was it when I pushed the teenage dreams aside to be an adult to live a life I thought I had to live? Was it when I was having babies of my own and thought that meant I needed to give up my dreams so I could focus on them and helping them develop their own? Or was it when I stopped writing all together and thought it was going to be too hard to get back into it because the well would be dry and there would be no stories for me to weave onto paper?

When did I decide I couldn’t be an author? Who says I still can’t be one today? I’m writing this blog, aren’t I? I also just co-authored in a book with 34 other powerhouse women called The Goddess Portal – Divine Feminine Wisdom Codes for Modern Maidens, Mothers, Queens and Crones. It went best seller on Amazon for an entire week. It’s published. I’ve had women reach out and tell me they loved my stories in the book. I’m actually living my dream, right at this very moment as I write these words. It’s exciting, humbling, and mind-boggling all at the same time.

I’ve decided that I’m going to continue to write and I’m chucking the limiting beliefs out the door. I can do literally any damn thing that I want to do. Sure, the road to get to the destination may be hard, there may be some detours and some resting along the way, but that doesn’t mean that I’m not going to get where I want to go. My motto has always been “living the dream” and its funny how words really manifest because right now, that’s quite literally what I’m doing. Aside from the writing piece, I’ve successfully been healing myself through old traumas that no longer serve me. I’ve also been taking those experiences and using them to grow my business to help others heal as well. Like everyone else, I could point out how some things are not exactly what I want them to be at this moment, but why bother when there are so many things going right? Besides, I have faith that as long as I keep pushing and putting in the effort, it’s going to work out so much better than I ever anticipated eventually.

So fam, I ask you: what’s a limiting belief that no longer serves you? When you come up with what it is, ask yourself: when did I decide that? Journal on it. Talk it out with a trusted friend. Go deep – don’t just stop at the surface level. You’ll probably be surprised where you land. Then take that knowledge and use it to re-write your story and path so that it heads in the direction you want it to.

We get one shot at this life in this incarnation. One. Do you want to spend it limiting yourself in the matrix? Or do you want to live a life beyond your wildest dreams doing the things you’ve always wanted to do?

The choice is yours.

Always love,

T

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